Today I was thinking about one situation and many observations at the same time.
Have you ever considered that the situation you are in, seems a heaven to others belong to you. Or the opposite: you dream a life that others are living with a heavy heart. This is because we are looking at us with the negative mindset and others with a prejudice mind. The people we wish to be alike must have their own dreams, aspirations, hopes, desires, and wishes to come true. This is an example of contradictory angles of thinking about others and our lives!
Although it seems very simple to become positive, realistic and as much natural as possible, but it is not that simple to apply in our real life with faith and honesty. Let’s take an example in this regard:
Mother is teaching her child and the child is no more interested in reading or writing (reason whatsoever). Mother is insisting on her to be serious in the study. The child is annoyed and messy and rude to some extent. In the mean time, she attends a call and on the inquiry, replies that:
My child is being stubborn and is not behaving any more………..
My child is making me angry and not doing the homework properly…
My child is creating fuss between me and her…..
My child is just like her father – the same rigidity in behavior
My child is very intelligent; never concentrates on one thing at a time….
My child is really hyper and behaves like an adult……… wow
My child is playing with me……………
My child is too naughty and rigid …
My child becomes bore at home,,,,,,,
My child is missing her father, that’s why doing silly things….
My child is feeling lonely, so could not study with motivation….
My child is just like me, never takes the study seriously,,,,,
My child behaves like a scientist who never liked doing homework at home….
My child is just a pain in my ass………………..
You can see different women express the same childish behavior differently, in a different mood, with different strength, and with different intentions. In fact, our mood depends on things like:
Where we are living and what our immediate environment is
Whom we are talking with.
What we want to share at that particular time…
What we want for our children in the future….
How we protect our children…
How we spoil our children…..
How much stressful we are…..
How much in peace, we are….
What is our education level…..
What is our educational background…..
There could be any reason behind our mood; yet it heavily targets our children. In the above situation, the reply that reflects that you are trying to teach your child and she is not in the mood yet would be sufficient. The child should understand that she needs to behave properly to learn. If you are tired of the efforts being made for your child, take a break! Do not overemphasize the situation to make you vulnerable to stress, anxiety and depression in the end!
The same is true with other relationships: husband and wife, between siblings, among relatives, between friends, between boss and employee, and between God and us. In each situation, we need to learn how can we describe the situation positively and meaningfully instead of making it a deal for others. We can approach any event of our life with a big smile and great attitude; otherwise our negativity and ignorance would make our life miserable and vulnerable.