Belief-Background Therapy

To solve our problems we need to find out our pure original disk of concepts in black and white. Indeed, it is very much complicated science. By the time we are not aware of our hidden rooted shaped conceptual backgrounds, we cannot find a clear path to follow to get rid of our misperceptions.

In the scientific study of perceptual psychology, pictures are always painted through their backgrounds. Our color perception is changed by the color/pattern of background only. It will not be wrong to say that there are as many pictures in this world as many backgrounds. Without any background, no picture can exist. Similarly, we behave in our daily life under the influence of certain backgrounds. Sometimes we don’t even know what the background effect on our life is.

Background can be anything from any abstract concept to any physical object hidden in our unconscious. For example, a concept can be any trivial statement like, ‘I am a woman who needs attention from others or ‘I am a mother who is always loving and caring’ or ‘I am an honest being’ or ‘I am brave and outspoken’, etc. All kinds of confessions and self re-assuring statements are sometimes our hidden backgrounds; of that, even we are not aware. Likewise, feelings (secure/sick/happy/cool/low) associated with events (such as a new-year day, a birthday, a holiday trip) are taken as examples of conceptual backgrounds. Whereas a hill- station, a hotel, a picnic spot, and a tourist attraction can be taken as examples of hard/physical backgrounds. Whenever our background environment (conceptual or physical) changes, our behavior follows and we react in a new manner. Moreover, anything or any concept can become a part of a background consciously or unconsciously by us in a specific moment/event. For example, we miss our home often, whenever we are abroad and miss abroad often whenever we are back at home. In such cases, our both conceptual and physical environments change.

Things that play their role as a background shape our perceptions that are very important for our attitudes. When we are missing someone, we are at the same time ignoring someone else whom we will miss at any other time with different background. Taking another example, suppose you are told about a guy who is having a grand car, big career, fancy clothes, a charming face with a luxurious lifestyle; you will in no time make a good image of him. Then the same time someone tells you  that it is all fake- he is a very poor guy indeed and asking for some charity instead. You will again reshape his image and think a little differently at the same time. Here the only background (conceptual) is changed not the guy. You have already seen background effects while making your web sites, editing pictures, watching movies and even selecting outfits with designs.

Have you ever encountered that your boyfriend is behaving differently with you in front of ‘a’ or ‘b’? Have you ever noticed that your son is indifferent to you while sitting in the company of other relatives/friends? Have you ever noticed someone you know from your heart, is behaving odd in his office or at other particular place? Have you ever argued with someone for stating two different contradictory statements at two different places? Have you ever thought people change their attitude due to their diplomatic mind-set? One surly encounters such experiences at least once in his or her lifetime.

However, not all experiences are due to our misperceptions. Some of them are true examples of cheating, diplomacy, and duality. My point, in this regard is that our backgrounds have a strong effect on our thoughts, actions, and attitudes and that (effect) is beyond our expectations. For example, one can become a very positive individual in his parents’ company and much negative in his friends’ company consciously and unconsciously. One can behave aggressively with his family and at the same time act like a gentleman in his office with co-workers. One can be genius in front of his relatives, and proves criminal for his enemies. There could be a thousand other examples to quote in this regard.

In fact, our backgrounds are our predecessors and predict our behavior strongly. The main backgrounds include: place of experience, thoughts within unconscious, beliefs about the information perceived and any kind of future association.

The place of experience includes all related information about the place at which you are. For example, if you feel secure in your parents’ home and love to be there, you will act naturally a nice person and speak gently unconsciously. On the other side, you will become angry and behave rudely in a place you simply do not want to go. Therefore, mostly people look calm, cool, and friendly at mediation places such as mosques, churches, mandirs, yoga centres, and temples.

Thoughts in unconscious mind always dictate us and show us the way to behave. You know when you are going to hospital in an emergency; you will become a little anxious, worried and depressed. You may drive rashly or slowly due to your unconscious thoughts going on. Oppositely, if you are going to marry, you will be cheerful, excited, and romantic in your behavior and conduct. Your thoughts would also become more imaginative and innovative at that time.

Beliefs about the information perceived are the strongest part of us that guide us in each moment of life. When someone behaves nicely in front of his friends, he might have a belief that friends must be given priority over others in life or any other belief conveying the similar meanings. On the contrary, one can behave rudely with his wife based on the belief that one should act like a lion in front of his family.

The last background is future orientation or association in mind. We behave according to our expectations and priorities. When we meet someone we think could give us something in the form of money, respect, comfort, or anything- tangible or intangible; we behave good, wise, compose and even empathetic. Whereas with the person who we think could never be able to support us in any form or may harm us in one way or the other, we use other tactics by behaving indifferent, rude, uninterested or even apathetic.

Thus, we change not only our attitude, rather behavior and thoughts according to our needs ahead at any particular time. We unconsciously get information from our backgrounds about the place we are acting in, people we are interacting with, a scenario in which we are dealing with others and about the benefits linked with those experiences. We calculate it all in the shortest possible period and then act. Usually we make mistakes and other people around us take it other way round, as they are not aware of our background knowledge of the event. Such mistakes or misperceptions may cost a high price if not understood properly in time. Therefore, one must try to fill the communication gap until his level best and should not leave a room for misperceptions or misunderstandings. Otherwise, things could become too complicated to solve!

Due to some misperceptions we encounter many types of conflicts in our daily life that normally drag us towards the unlimited depth of depression, anxiety and hopelessness. Though there are many cognitive therapies that try to change our brain’s configuration or our ways of thinking, yet the process demands a lot of hard work and strong motivation towards a change at both ends. In short, it is not an easy way and most of us leave it in between.

Here, a very important phenomenon is missing and that is our perceptual understanding of the problem and its bondage/relationship with our immediate environment. Perceptions alone (without finding out their connections with immediate environment) cannot be altered/changed even through a hard wire of reasoning. Let’s take an example. A child is very lazy, never interested in study, always makes some excuses, plays games instead, even though there is a good teacher available with good environment, good stuff and good techniques. The moment second child comes into the competition, the first one suddenly changes his attitude/behavior and acts as if he is no more a previous one. Now he is all together changed in a second. There could be several examples to quote in which we see the same person behaving differently due to a sudden change in his/her immediate environment.

Therefore, by having a real change in our environment, we can think of a perceptual change in our brain and a real change in our life. Our personalities are a mixture of the multitude of emotions and concepts and we choose some of them that suit our present needs and environment. We would say something now and the very opposite instead if there is any change in our environment. Have you noticed people talking to you on cell suddenly changing their tone when someone enters or leaves the room. Thus, we can say that our opinions, attitudes and behaviors are always subject to change due to our physical or perceptual environment.

You know things are perceived very differently through changing their recipes, color, conditions, or even packing. People face huge losses on items that carry unappealing or irrelevant color. Human beings are more sensitive to such changes. Our genes are our basic formulas. Our color of skin and shape of body parts, play a critical role in our self understanding and self perception. Similarly diverse psychological aspects, in our basic perceptual environment, play a critical role in understanding not only our self perception rather self misperception. Both physical and psychological health factors may drag us towards extremes of happiness or depression. Sometimes a little change in the related perceptual field brings the desired effects, and other times it will not work in years because we were heading in the wrong direction and/or at the wrong time.

There could be several other ways to change the environment. By changing place, by choosing an activity, by doing something else, by changing identity, by changing friends, by having something new, by removing something old etc. Changing your ways of eating, changing your ways of dressing or even talking could change your attitude in life. Sometimes buying flowers helps you in getting freshness and concentration; a little walk is all you need to get started; a refreshing, soothing bath is enough to feel energized and alive; and sometimes a compliment from a friend helps you to tune up. A little change is enough if it is going to execute some results otherwise, any big change like changing a country of residence, changing profession, even changing spouse would not work to eliminate your problems.

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