We all know we have a conscious and unconscious mind and we all deal with our mind continuously all the time. It is very much clear that without mind, we cannot survive. The things we do with our choice, like or dislike are always considered part of our behaviour and the things that form our experiences, on the whole, become part of our memories. We live a life with motivations, aspirations, accomplishments, disappointments, worries, appreciations and total satisfaction/dissatisfaction overall. In our day to day life, sometimes we just don’t want to do something and we think our mood is off. We don’t feel thrilled to do something. Many times we don’t know the reason behind those low mood episodes and sometimes we exactly know what is the reason behind our depress mood. Our depress mood is the first sign of our depressive life in case it continues and we don’t do anything to stop its occurrences. So, suppose we don’t know the reason for our upset mood- in this case, we cannot do much help to uplift our spirit. Whereas, when we know what is the reason behind our low mood and our reason is someone else’s behaviour with us- then, in this case, we are again in the helpless situation. You got it, that in this case that significant other would need to resolve the issue. If I tell you I am angry with you and don’t tell you the reason for that – how will you react? If I tell you, that you are worst- what will be your reaction? On the other side, when I tell you that I love you, what will you feel like? On listening something positive your all day will be a great time of your life – and you will do many things with feeling love right inside your brain. So we can say that, sometimes, some people create our unconscious with their loving words, gestures, statements, language, behaviour or whatever the way they choose to say that they love you. And on the other side some people, all the time remind us that we are bad and thus ruin our lifetime
For the people who belong to the ‘difficult’ category, and who make other’s life miserable with no guilt, I have no advice. For the people who are in that abusive situation, and facing such people in their life on a daily basis, at first, stop being stupid by thinking that you are dealing with humans. Such people are unpredictable, miserable to deal with, and highly toxic. Believe me, they don’t need even your attention span for a second! However, if you have to deal with them, be careful and be aware of your safety exit roots!