What if you feel compelled to do something you don’t like?
What if you are bound to act in a certain way- you don’t want to?
What if you feel like to stop but can’t do it due to your circumstances?
What if you are not free to wear what you like to?
What if you can’t eat what you want to?
What if you can’t enjoy something you passionately want to?
There are countless things like the above that create depressive symptoms among us when we simply do not want to do that and we have to do that due to our so called limitations and circumstances. In such cases, psychologists have no option except to change your belief system. They would try to motivate you to see other angles of the problem rather than that you do not want to. However, it is not as simple as it seems- it deserves a hard work on your part to recreate a new building on the old remnants.
Suppose your spouse or boss likes you to wear red color in the party and you do not feel confident in doing so. Your perception of red color is not so good. You think it will look odd, funny and hot! You think this is not a better choice in any case. Your image would be spoiled among the public if you try it. So whatever is the reason; you are not willing to wear it to feel good, confident and attractive in the party. Now you have the following options to follow:
1. Wear the red color as dictated by your boss and feel ashamed all the time.
2. Do not wear the red color at all and make the boss angry.
3. Wear something like half red and half blue or any other combination
4. Wear red with confidence, pride, and pleasant feelings.
Suppose you choose option no 1.
It will make you vulnerable to depression, anxiety and stress symptoms afterwards.
Suppose you choose option no 2.
It will make your boss angry and you might get a challenging situation ahead. However, this option will make you strong, energetic and persistent in your choice and help you in dealing with similar situations in future.
Suppose you choose option no 3.
It will neither satisfy you nor your boss fully. However, there are chances that you too will pass the required time with great patience and will not disturb each other. However, this choice is the middle way that most of us adopt to lead our lives with caution and intellect.
Suppose you choose option no 4.
For the last and fourth choice, you must acknowledge the fact that your perception is wrong and you have to change it to see the desired results; otherwise you will have to make a compromise (that you do not want at all).
Now to change the perception of the red color is in itself a great deal. You have to remind yourself about the new, positive, and great impressions of the red color. For example:
1. Red is a color of life
2.Red is a color of luck in many countries of the world like china.
3.Red is a color of passion and love in psychology
4. Red is a color of energy and passion
If you are convinced about the new meanings of the color red; you will be the first person to choose red at first choice given to you. It will change your mindset, perception, and belief about the red color forever.
This technique is not limited to only ‘red-color’ ; rather it includes almost all the belief-based mental structures that provide great hindrances in our way towards the progress in work and psychological well being overall.
However, some beliefs or concepts, particularly those, based on religious teachings and cultural settings are too rigid to replace with other beliefs. And in most of the cases, we personally do not want to change them at any cost. In that case, it is more advisable to leave the situation that puts you in trouble of guilt and misery. We can fight with all kinds of troubles, hardships and mind-sets except a totally contradictory and challenging perceptual world.