source : retrieved from Google images. Just search ‘rukhsati’ on google, or on you tube; you will get it all what it means to Parents of Pakistan.
Parents who are symbol of love, care, blessing and happiness for the children are sometimes perceived as strangers, caretakers, and home owners. Parents who should give unconditional love to their children, in some parts of the world, extend their love to their children if they belong to a specific gender-male. For girls, their love is temporary, conditional and very much hypocritical. In almost each and every part of Pakistan:
- Daughters are taken as guests in the parent’s home until they are married.
- Girls are supposed to leave their parental home forever on wedding day (a tradition called Rukhsati)
- Sons are expected to live with their parents and take care of them.
- Daughters are expected not to visit their parents often after marriage
- Son is usually discouraged to see his in-laws often
- Daughters are supposed to do house chores and obey their husbands /in-laws
- Most parents think it is a matter of their great honor ( in the most negative way) or they will kill their daughters if:
- Their daughter gets a divorce and come back due to any reason
- Their daughter is raped or abused
- Their daughter comes back due to facing brutality and cruelty of in-laws
- Their daughter comes back due to having husbands rude, unfair and constantly demanding attitude
- Their daughter is simply not ready to get married
- Their daughter is having an affair or on date
- their daughter wants to live independently and alone
- their daughter wants to live with her parents forever
In short, parents that are the only hope of children in this cruel world to welcome them, comfort them and console them in time of need and grief; in Pakistan girls are very much deprived of that ever lasting shadow of pure and powerful loving background. Girls, to some extent, receive their share of love and care from almost all kinds of parents; however that love is not enough to provide them with the energy to fight for their rights and live happily ever after. In life love is not the solution of every practical problem; rather we need to enforce some laws, rules, regulations to administer the social evils wisely. The traditions that cause discrimination, feelings of helplessness and flourish injustice, abuse and cruelty/atrocity among society members at a large scale, must be banned. We are not born to follow traditions blindly; rather traditions are established to comfort and facilitate us in a better way. Hope, people and especially parents would think twice before saying their girls a guest in their homes.