Parents are always interested in the well being of their children and sacrifice is their second nature. Parents usually collect all their wisdom and comfort their children first and then think about their own needs. We, no doubt, are very much aware of our parent’s intentions, well wishes, and great love for us.
However, there is no perfect parent in this world. One can try to become perfect; but it is simply not possible to do all what is required in the most professional mechanical way at the exact time. So we are prone to do mistakes while having a great pressure of good parenting style. What do you do when you acknowledge your mistake? Let me give you some examples to understand the concept:
- Suppose you could not get what your child is saying and shuts her up abruptly
- Suppose you mistakenly taught wrong meaning to your child
- Suppose you are upset due to some reason and snubs your child rudely
- Suppose you could not make some food for your child due to your leisure or lazy attitude
- Suppose you know you could comfort your child, but you did not act like that due to some enmity for your husband
- Suppose you are neglecting your child due to your abusive relationship with your partner
- Suppose you are ill-treating your child due to your anxiety in job
There could be several reasons for your rude behavior with your children that would create a guilt for you. You know you have done something wrong with your children and no body is witness to that. You, in your heart, feel guilt and shame! You feel regret and sorry for that. How would you treat yourself positively and replace your feelings with new energy of love?
Certainly it is very important for you to get rid of such feelings but how?
There is not much work for you to do in this regard. You may say SORRY to your child and explain to her why you were rude or indifferent according to her age level. Even if the child is two years old, she will listen to you carefully and respond empathetically. This is most important for both of you to resolve the issue as early as possible; otherwise the gap of misunderstanding would become too huge to settle down.