Doing Homework is Fun for Some!

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When your child is not interested in doing homework? Not interested in reading or not interesting in writing – what would you do ? Stuck! Follow the steps below and hope for the best.

  • At first, start thinking positively. Your child might not be a scientist, doctor, engineer, or priest of the future- he might become a sweeper, postman, door guard or cleaner of someone’s house in future. There is nothing wrong in it. What is important in life is education, not status; morality, not money; character, not beauty and good health is the one and the only thing in life to strive for and thankful to All-Mighty.
  • Now, if you still want your child to study hard and pay attention to homework; then watch him or her minutely. Watch day and night and look for things he or she is interested in. Find out his or her interests or cultivate some interests in his or her life. List all of those things according to the priority of your child. For example:

Watching movies

Playing digital games

Playing outside

Talking to friends on Facebook

Singing or listening music

  • Now try to motivate your child to do some homework through the above incentives. You can appreciate his or her small efforts with the rewards ( above mentioned) or anything else appropriate. Please take care of timings in this regard. The incentive should be achievable and not frustrating to achieve within a reasonable time frame. The reward should be very near to completing a task; otherwise, it will lose its effect. There could be thousands of incentives, rewards, motivating grandeurs, and charms for kids to manipulate; however they should not be used in the routine. When a child is a little bit used to do his or her homework in time, incentives are no more needed; otherwise, the child would learn to manipulate your needs as well.
  • Start talking with your child ( in any age) with confidence about the issues you are facing with him or her. Tell him or her, what is irritating you and in what ways, he or she could solve this issue. Tell your child honestly that you are suffering from him or her. Help him or her to understand your stance, perspective, and concern; no matter how long and how many times you need to talk!
  • It is always better not to compare your child with other children; however, sometimes you have to set criteria to educate your children. You can explain your child, ‘ look, the other child is reading very fast, can you try to read like him, or better’. Your child will start trying. Appreciate, appreciate and appreciate. That’s all. Leave other child and focus on your child again.
  • Do what you want from your child. You cannot do his homework, but can do something on a notebook in the same time your child is doing homework. This is true when the home is single child home. Parents should be present with their children mentally and physically when their children are studying. At least for the young children, this is a must! It will make doing homework a fun for your child.

There are many other things to suggest but would recommend in another blog.

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Say Sorry To Your Kids!

Parents are always interested in the well being of their children and sacrifice is their second nature. Parents usually collect all their wisdom and comfort their children first and then think about their own needs. We, no doubt, are very much aware of our parent’s intentions, well wishes, and great love for us.

 However, there is no perfect parent in this world. One can try to become perfect; but it is simply not possible to do all what is required in the most professional mechanical way at the exact time. So we are prone to do mistakes while having a great pressure of good parenting style. What do you do when you acknowledge your mistake? Let me give you some examples to understand the concept:

  • Suppose you could not get what your child is saying and shuts her up abruptly
  • Suppose you mistakenly taught wrong meaning to your child
  • Suppose you are upset due to some reason and snubs your child rudely
  • Suppose you could not make some food for your child due to your leisure or lazy attitude
  • Suppose you know you could comfort your child, but you did not act like that due to some enmity for your husband
  • Suppose you are neglecting your child due to your abusive relationship with your partner
  • Suppose you are ill-treating your child due to your anxiety in job

There could be several reasons for your rude behavior with your children that would create a guilt for you. You know you have done something wrong with your children and no body is witness to that. You, in your heart, feel guilt and shame! You feel regret and sorry for that. How would you treat yourself positively and replace your feelings with new energy of love?

Certainly it is very important for you to get rid of such feelings but how?

There is not much work for you to do in this regard. You may say SORRY  to your child and explain to her why you were rude or indifferent according to her age level. Even if the child is two years old, she will listen to you carefully and respond empathetically. This is most important for both of you to resolve the issue as early as possible; otherwise the gap of misunderstanding would become too huge to settle down.

To The Mothers Of The Aggressive Children

 

Being a Muslim and a good human being we always give respect and favor to our mothers for their love, belongingness, care and sacrifice. Mothers are no doubt embracing the medal of nourishment and development of their kids. They are fully responsible for their kids moral and ethical education. Especially in the society of Pakistan, mothers’ role cannot be ignored as they have only one obligation to raise children and to do house chores (they are not forced to work outside).

With extreme apology, I must say that where mothers are appreciated for their brave, intelligent, successful children, they must be blamed for their cruel, hyperactive and aggressive off springs. When we say, mothers lap is the first place to learn, we must not forget the people who commit crimes, kill other innocent citizens and rape their sisters. Why not their mothers take charge of their deeds? Why not their mothers are liable for their sick personalities and ill behavioral aspects?

It is very important to understand what I want to say in this regard. No doubt, mothers are always loving, caring and nurturing by nature. No doubt mother must be respected everywhere. No doubt, mothers cannot stop crime and cruelty among society members. We cannot deny the mother’s  contribution to her children, whether she is educated or not. But at the same time, we cannot ignore mothers too when we talk about suicide bombers, honor killers, rapists, and terrorists.

Should we not educate mothers to teach their children about love, humanity, friendship, caring, sympathy, helping, generosity and gratitude. Should we not take measures to educate mothers before educating criminals, killers and suicide bomb blasters. Should not we deal with the root cause intelligently and wisely? Should not we take the mothers’ role seriously in eradicating the insecurity from the society? Should not we call mothers help to decide about our future’s peace and harmony in the most realistic manner? Only in this way, in my opinion the root cause of the unrest can be tackled with success.

Mothers can play a big role in maintaining a peace in the region. Mothers can stop the war of terrorism forever. Only mothers can perform such a duty in this critical time and help all of us miraculously. Only mothers can take the charge of bringing a change in society through their unconditional love towards their children and a firm attitude towards the negation of terrorist activities. Only mothers need to be awakened and get their children back on track!

 

The Best Gift Parents Give To Their Children

Parents are responsible for their children’s well being overall. It includes healthy food, good education, a safe place to live, a sense of unconditional love, and a sense of greater self-esteem. Parents at their level best try to fulfill all. They not only give formal education to their offspring rather informal moral education go side-by-side. Vigilant parents provide their children not only a clean, safe place to live rather a sense of surety within. Empathetic parents understand the importance of unconditional love towards their children and at the same time impose some limits to stop their children from being aggressive, disobedient and rude. Parents are well informed about their children’s level of self-esteem in schools and their work together with teachers to improve it their better future and a successful life ahead.
Though the responsibilities of the parents never end, what they do not understand in this regard is their responsibility to give their children indirect education, love, safety and self-esteem that will create long lasting effects. How can parents fulfill such a need:
By loving each other in front of their children
By taking care of each other in front of their children
By respecting each other in their children’s presence
By tolerating each other in their child’s presence.
By showing empathy to each other when children are around
By behaving nicely when children are around
Thus, their children will imitate their role models and learn a lot. When parents do something else and say something else, children cannot follow any of these. They b

 

ecome confused and do what they like based on their own immature calculation. Not only this, we, as parents, need not to pretend that we are loving, nice or caring – we need to be real, honest and pure with ourselves to convey our messages to our children in reality.
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To Learn – Basic Human Need   

We as human beings are designed to live with food, shelter, love, emotions, health, relationships, and many other things common for all of us in all over the world. Our instincts, attitudes, behaviors, aptitudes and personalities are totally understood the world over. We recognize the meanings of universal realities, international human rights, the definition of love, happiness and humanity as a whole in all over the world.

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