Should we think about things and worldly affairs, all the time or, it is better to relax, do what we need to do, and leave the result to the destiny. Usually, we waste time in planning about our future and doing nothing at the moment. We spend a considerable amount of time to comfort our physical needs and too little upon our spiritual needs. We think materialistic things will provide us real comfort and peace. In fact, they are meant to give us peace and happiness provided we are already happy and in a good mood. It is a cruel fact that we could be distressed and anxious while lying in our luxurious bed! We cant get enough food and feel right if we are not in total peace. Therefore, our all physical needs are essential to be fulfilled if our basic human needs are already fulfilled. A man who is hungry, sleepless(due to some anxiety and stress), and fearful could never enjoy the diamond glass, bed of roses or a grand house to live in. At first, we need to fulfill our basic needs till we are satisfied and in peace in our tiny life. Then we could think about buying some add-ons. Though some add-ons are necessary these days, for example, mobiles, computers, and TVs. Think about a man who is sick – would he enjoy the tv, computer or mobile as much as he could being a healthy one. No. so the health is the first wealth one could wish for in time of sickness. Likewise sleep is the best medicine. If one cannot sleep due to some stress, he or she would need some therapy or some help to feel better rather than a comfortable bed or couch. After getting peace of mind, he could enhance his sleep time by having a warm bed or a cozy mattress. Similarly, think about a woman who needs to become a mother. She is in dire need of that. Should she be comfortable if you provide her with a great job and a huge amount to spend on her! She would never be happy with all of this stuff unless she becomes the mother of one at least! Human beings are like that. We all need basic things to some level; after that, we can struggle for more items. When one has a room to live in, food to eat, a bed to sleep, job to work, relationships to become social, and friends to talk; then life becomes less miserable, and one can think of other add-ons.
Keeping above in view, we can say that all human needs that marketers are trying to exploit by their lavishly wordings are not serving their purpose. The best quality of the home is not essential to make us truly happy, rather the quality of relationship we hold is much more important. The quality of health is much more important than the quality of make-up we are looking for to impress others. Similarly, the love, peace, and mental well-being are true gifts of God and much better than millions in banks with constant torture, stress, anxiety, and depression. No doubt, we could enjoy both the freedom of choice and the harmony of love along with the tranquility of peace at the same time if we are very much blessed and honored.
Thanks
peace
LIFE SAVING DRUGS – THREATS TO LIFE!
I wonder why we struggle for something important to us. Though it is the pure way to express ourselves in the best possible manner; it is not always justifiable. Actually we are slaves of many things starting from our dreams, desires, aspirations, obligations, concepts and perceptions to our customs, culture and religion. We can tell a lie to our friends, parents, and relatives, but we know what is truth inside us. We know we are following a path of our own choice.
Unconsciously or consciously we are running towards our set goals. In this journey we never stop. Starting from our birthday, when we cry for our favourite toys, dolls, and cars until the day of death when we only yearn for a healthy body! At times we are hungry for food, and the other times we are happy for our newly bought luxury car. People forget about their dreams after they achieve them and start dreaming again! We are human, so we do the same.
The point is that why we do all of this stuff ? Do we really really need it? Can we live a happy life without something we desire very deeply in our heart? Should we strive for the success or for the peace hidden in that success? Are we not wasting our time by engaging ourselves in worldly affairs? Is there any power to save us from cruelties of life miraculously or we are just believing in supernatural powers to feel protected and secured?
Whatever is the case, we are not ready to leave our mind-set for any trivial reason. We want to experience the reality and check about the laws ourselves through our own experiments. We don’t like short cuts; rather we want to struggle hard to find the truth. We are like young kids who want to check if the fire burns or not. How can we behave wisely in our childhood?
You know what is the first thing in life- important to all of you whether you are young, adult or old? The very first and foremost thing in life is your own peace of mind and satisfaction over all. Until or unless you are not satisfied with whatever you do; you will not stop running around. At the same time if you are happy, satisfied and at peace; you are there already where each one of us want to reach. Now its up to you, how you get that eternal peace – through adopting the ways that most suit you or through following the paths of other successful humans.
The most important care in this self examination is that you should not keep negative goals with you in the first place. The negative goals are never meant to get the same positive results. So if you want to become rich and then happy; you are basically negative in your approach. You need to mend your thought and say that you want to become happy- might be through riches or other sources of nature. In this way, you are totally positive in your basic approach towards life.
Keep it up and be happy!
The choice is Yours!
Unconscious background matters a lot to succeed in our life or live a happy peaceful life at least. Should we think about it twice before ignoring this very important aspect of our life? True, we need to explore it first. As it is very deep and complex human emotion. Let me give you an example :
You are going to see someone and on the way, you come across some naughty or disturbing people. People react in different manners to deal with the similar, strange, nasty situations. And there could be many types of reactions – they all depend on your unconscious mindset. Such as:
- You are feeling so good inside that you totally ignore the experience and think about the upcoming event seriously.
- You react in the manner you think you should react and become angry for a while. Then you motivate yourself not to forget your real aim and goal to meet today.
- You not only react to the worse situation rather kept on thinking about it on the way back to home.
- You keep quiet on the spot but keep the hurt emotions inside and give a fake smile to others.
- You try to convince yourself that it is the part of life but the scenes of that nasty situation come in front of your eyes and you cannot focus properly.
There is no hard and fast rule to adapt to deal with any worse situation in life. It all depends on the situation indeed how you react to it. However; in most of the situations, things would turn back to you due to your negativity and low mood. For example:
Situation no 2 :
In this situation, you become angry and try to deal with your anger for a while. It is not a totally positive situation. If you get out of it very soon, then you are out of the trap of negativity and will conquer the world.
Situation no 3:
The most likely you are in trouble deep. You are going to meet many other similar situations due to your low mood and negativity. You should not expect any good in future.
Situation no 4:
you are dealing with the situation but that is not real you. You are hiding your inner anger and negativity. So again you are not going to find your peace and joy in near future.
Situation no 5:
In such situation, you are again not in your control. Your emotions are taking you down the way you will find more depression, anxiety, and suffering. Your mood is not energetic and helping to take you to the next level of success and prosperity.
Situation no 1:
In this situation, you are free to move forward in your life. You can expect a bundle of joy, peace, ecstasy, and happiness all around you. Your experiences would take you to another world and yes, that is real you with your true desire fulfilled. It could be anything you adore and wish for.
The bad events or worse situations would come again and again in your life. Usually, for the better results, your consistency, with overall positive emotional health would predict your future in the way you could ever imagine or much better than that. Thanks
When rules and values need not to be put through?
We need rules, values, laws and boundaries create a peaceful society, to control our emotions and to have a little check on all of us for being honest, trustworthy, and disciplined human being. We, in all over the world observe certain patterns with respect to our safety, integrity and well-being. We as a nation cannot deny the rule of law over almost everything we come across, whether it relates to your ego, respect, and freedom of choice or it is a matter of your rights of living, schooling, and facilitating your health worries. We, with no doubt, understand the importance of civic laws, social laws, and moral laws, especially which are running in our local setups.
Now consider the following examples :
I still remember when I entered UK immigration zone three years back. It was in the long queue waiting for the check out while holding my one year old infant baby boy on my lab. Though my son was intact and seemed fresh, yet I was over tired with the long journey of about 15 hours, while doing babysitting and nursing intensely. I was thinking that UK is a country where rules have priority over everything so I would have to face a long queue in any circumstance. Moreover neither me nor my son was sick to get some excuse. While I was thinking in these lines, one lady came towards me and took me to the front bench to sit and wait. I thought there must be some kind of punishment for me as I was from Pakistan( apparently a corrupt country ). But then I came to know that it was an honor for a mother with an infant to get priority over public and leave the queue. We were out of the immigration so soon that no one could imagine. This was not discrimination rather a great gesture of honor for the mothers from the UK ( the country of laws).
Usually we are bound to obey the road signs and traffic rules in Scotland. Police can put a penalty of huge amount if someone is caught by while breaking the law. However, I with my little son have enjoyed a free walk and crossing at any time, at any place without any obvious restriction of law as traffic from both sides willingly and courteously used to stop for us even in rush hours and at restricted places (where one cannot cross the road). It does not mean, we are illiterate or getting unfair advantage of our rude behavior rather wherever we stand for a while along the road, the traffic from the opposite side thinks that we are about to cross and stops. Sometimes, we had to cross the road unwillingly as the traffic was waiting for us to clear the road. How amazing and caring attitude indeed these people have!
My driving instructor told me about each and every rule of driving while saying that when there is matter of saving your or others life, no rule is more important.
In buses, trains, and parks, people give priority to others (older, younger, kids, women, special) voluntarily and leave the space for them.
Once I took my parcel back from the Royal Mail, which has already been sent to the receiver. According to law, no one could do me a favor but according to morals, one could get it back. I thought it is UK, so law would not help me out. I was wrong in that assessment as the people here left the law aside to get me out of trouble. I thank royal mail for their timely help and great concerns.
Therefore, laws are there to help us , to organize and control us, to create discipline among nations, societies, and cultures, to protect humans from animals or animal like humans, to punish the cruel acts and to flourish the empathy and sympathy among people, to save the nation from discrimination, nepotism, and inequality, to promote love, cooperation and justice overall. But whenever there is a special need to break the law in rare circumstances, to get the same objective (described above), one must not care for the law and rather go for the objective. It is too one form of abiding by, strengthening and rejuvenating the law in real spirit. So when the law is the basic hurdle in cultivation of peace, break it or bypass it for your safety and dignity.
The Best Medicine For Stressed Parents
In todays modern lifestyle, everyone is stressed up, tired and bore, especially the parents. In most of the parts of the world, parents are usually engaged in earnings and greatly tired when back home. Even if one of the parents is not working hand, he or she must be doing house chores and at the end of the day would feel strained, pains, and aches with dull and strange mood. Each one of us is suffering from some kind of anxieties so they will further boost the stress and play their role in feeling less energetic and rude to some extent. Usually parents are irritating and annoyed on trivial matters of children. They feel like to take a long, deep sleep when their children want their time!
Not all of you have the same situation so I will focus on the group who is especially stressful and full of anxiety and depression at the moment. However, it is becoming very common routine of parents nowadays to become more critical and less sharing with their kids. My observation is not different in this regard. I have seen many who just want to get rid of their day to day routine and want an escape. They are simply not ready to accept the reality of their situation that they are Parents now and no more kids!
What parents do when they feel low? Usually they take medicines, go for the therapies, and try several tips to return to their old track. They go for swimming, for example, go for a walk, go to the gym, go to yoga, listen soft and soothing music, change their eating habits, and do whatever their source suggests them to do to live a stress free life. The point is that all of such tactics are not wrong if they do not forget one thing all together.
They forget that nature can never ever do something wrong with them. They, being a parent, are not blessed with only duties, responsibilities and anxieties. Nature’s blessings are equal to everyone. It makes no sense that what a wealthy man can afford to relax, a poor cannot. This is especially not true with the parental stress. Nature cannot be biased in bestowing her blessings to its creation. There must be something wrong with us. We must have forgotten something very important and unique; so we are suffering.
That, something very important is, that the best medicine is the sharing your love with someone: your parents, siblings, your children or your friends. When you love someone, you are in cool mood, stress free and fresh. When you become parents you become more responsible and mature. This does not mean you cannot play with your kids. You need to understand that playing with your kids is not only your kids wish and need; it is basically your physical and innate need. Moreover, playing with your kid will reduce your stress hormones, give you more happiness, increase your oxygen level, boost your energy, improve your vision and memory and leave you with a refreshed and sexy human being. If you are suffering from high blood pressure, diabetes and any kind of psychological disorder, your time spent with your kids will help you to recover fast.
Here, it is important to note that playing with your kids should not be taken as going with your kids to the playground or playing areas. You should spare some time to play with your children every day in which you play a role just like your kid. You may pretend that, but it is the most important part of the game. Even if your kids play with their siblings, cousins, or friends, your role will never be compensated. Thus to become a loving and caring parent, you need to engage yourself with your kids as much as possible. It will not only help your kids to become a good human being rather get you away from present or upcoming diseases, sufferings, anxieties, and stresses.
If you have another point to raise in this regard, please do not mind commenting on it. I would love to reply you in my humble capacity.
Thanks
To The Mothers Of The Aggressive Children
Being a Muslim and a good human being we always give respect and favor to our mothers for their love, belongingness, care and sacrifice. Mothers are no doubt embracing the medal of nourishment and development of their kids. They are fully responsible for their kids moral and ethical education. Especially in the society of Pakistan, mothers’ role cannot be ignored as they have only one obligation to raise children and to do house chores (they are not forced to work outside).
With extreme apology, I must say that where mothers are appreciated for their brave, intelligent, successful children, they must be blamed for their cruel, hyperactive and aggressive off springs. When we say, mothers lap is the first place to learn, we must not forget the people who commit crimes, kill other innocent citizens and rape their sisters. Why not their mothers take charge of their deeds? Why not their mothers are liable for their sick personalities and ill behavioral aspects?
It is very important to understand what I want to say in this regard. No doubt, mothers are always loving, caring and nurturing by nature. No doubt mother must be respected everywhere. No doubt, mothers cannot stop crime and cruelty among society members. We cannot deny the mother’s contribution to her children, whether she is educated or not. But at the same time, we cannot ignore mothers too when we talk about suicide bombers, honor killers, rapists, and terrorists.
Should we not educate mothers to teach their children about love, humanity, friendship, caring, sympathy, helping, generosity and gratitude. Should we not take measures to educate mothers before educating criminals, killers and suicide bomb blasters. Should not we deal with the root cause intelligently and wisely? Should not we take the mothers’ role seriously in eradicating the insecurity from the society? Should not we call mothers help to decide about our future’s peace and harmony in the most realistic manner? Only in this way, in my opinion the root cause of the unrest can be tackled with success.
Mothers can play a big role in maintaining a peace in the region. Mothers can stop the war of terrorism forever. Only mothers can perform such a duty in this critical time and help all of us miraculously. Only mothers can take the charge of bringing a change in society through their unconditional love towards their children and a firm attitude towards the negation of terrorist activities. Only mothers need to be awakened and get their children back on track!
Abused Women Of Pakistan
When I was learning to drive, on my wrong movement toward backward, my instructor screwed me and said,’ if there were your little son standing on behind your car, I would see how you move without watching him’. I was bluntly looking at him and stood still! I had no words except to confess that I was wrong. I never made that mistake again. It was such a shocking assumption for me that I could not even think of that. I was terribly taught how to move backward carefully and safely.
Today I was watching T.V., when there was a news for a girl who was gang raped a few months back that she had burnt herself for not getting justice and for being stigmatized in society for such a long time. She had no other way except to have suicide. I think she should be taught a better way on how to suicide less miserably! At least there should be some peace in death!
Many other girls who suffer a trauma in life (may it be gang rape, burned in the fire, put in graves alive, been cut body parts), have no choice except to suicide. Unfortunately who live long, never find a respectable way to live their life as they are stigmatized, ridiculed and harshly criticized even within the sweet close family members!
Why don’t people think that this girl could be one of their relatives- their sisters, daughters, or cousins. I think they have no courage to think like that or they have no sympathy even for their own relatives!
For a society where justice is no where, one cannot think of having a punishment; one cannot fear of the law, jail or any other punishment; one cannot think of being stigmatized as the society is full of the criminals- like minded people. Unfortunately, there is all good for them. I, being a blogger, can only condemn such brutalities and feel sorry for that. I offer my free services of counseling to women who had been a victim of such traumas in their life, whether they belong to Pakistan or any other country. Please contact me on my email: mei3na4@gmail.com. I am in my humble capacity performing my duty, but what about other relevant societies?
I understand that there is no voice that could stand with the victim. No law, no government, no relative, no friend, no one! Here I put it in another shoe. To the girls who suffer from such miseries and bear any kind of abuse in life, I appeal to please do not kill yourself. Please do not do that harm to your precious soul. Let it go. I know it does not sound easy to you, I know, but you can do it as it is going to get you somewhere else. You can use your energy to do something great in life. You are not an ordinary soul, God has chosen you to do what an ordinary person cannot. There must be some good news for you too from your creator in the near future. Just be patient and remain calm until you get your final destiny of peace and happiness.
If you do so, this would be the best revenge indeed. This would uplift you from the sheer darkness and calamity and take you towards the eternal peace and bring you in spirit to live a happy wonderful life. My sympathy is always with you so you are most welcome to contact me whenever you feel like.
Thanks
The Beauty Of The Law Of Attraction
I have read more than 50 books on the Law of Attraction and they all focus on the same thing but the way of expression is different. I cannot see any difference of opinion between, the writers main focus. They all believe in the state of receiving. They all agree on the power of gratitude. They all are convinced of the idea that positive begets positive. They all think our thoughts define us. They all stress upon being stress free and feel good. They all want us to be out of the circle of self pity and depressed thoughts. They all want us to feel better in spite of our bitter realities. They encourage us to imagine what we want and to be thankful for what we desire. They are not mad, in saying so. There must be some reality in these statements. I am so far not very much convinced.
Yesterday, my son asked me for a new toy. He was not behaving so I replied, ‘no’. I said, ‘ you do not deserve it right now’. Then my son tried to control his emotions and again asked for that toy. I was not happy with buying that toy for a son who is annoying me with his rude and selfish behavior. The next day, my son forgot his desire. He remained with me all day while saying, ‘mom, you are looking beautiful in this dress’. I was very happy. Then he said, ‘ mom, I like this toy very much that you have chosen for me. I do not need any more’. I was extremely happy for his nice attitude and gestures. Then he passed by his favorite toy and said,’ mom, I want it, but if you do not like to buy it for me, it is OK’. I stopped there and bought that toy for him at once. I bought two toys for him of his choice at that time – almost forcibly. I bought the toys not because he was asking them rather because I was planning to give these toys to him as a reward for his good and nice behavior.
This is the trick of the Law Of Attraction. We need to be patient, calm, and pleasant on the realities of our life till the time of abundance comes to us. Till the universe makes us happy forever. Till we become what we want to become. Till we get our desires in the way we like. Till we feel, how we like to feel in our lives. Till we achieve what we have been longing for. We need to be thankful for the Universe in advance for all those things we are asking. We need to make sure that the universe is going to respond us very soon – sooner than a mother’s heart.
Being a Muslim, I can quote some of the prayers that convey the same meanings :
- God will give you a life of happiness, but you need to be a thankful human being.
- God will increase His blessings upon the people who are thankful.
- If you will adopt the right path, He will increase his blessings and give you what you desire, otherwise neither you will get what you want nor you will get any other blessing.
- God will increase your wealth if you become fearful of God.
Andy many others convey the similar meanings stressing upon the importance of gratitude and feeling good. We cannot ignore such teachings if we want to achieve the real happiness in life.
As the bible says:
- Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
- Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever.
- Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers
There are many others to quote in this regard. All of such statements focus on us – being grateful to the God. They say we need to be grateful to God or we will not be blessed. It means we will not be happy in both ways- with holding wealth or without having wealth.
So, the time has come when we need to understand what we need : happiness, wealth, peace or suffering. We will be gifted all according to our own individual traits. Now, it depends on us how we react to our circumstances. In positive scenario, we will be blessed and in negative lights we will be in trouble. All of our realities are reflections of our thoughts, so be careful in deciding about something, in reflecting on something, and in evaluating your life critically as all of these thoughts are ultimately going to fill your future full of miseries or full of fortunes.
Thanks
Why Do Not We, Touch Hearts?
In today’s world, everybody seems to look healthy, prosperous, happy and tempted to earn more and more. Each one of us is in the race to get more money to spend, more things to enjoy, more pills to become healthier and more tasks to pursue. We, are blindly following our standards. Some of us are more persistent and ambitious than others in doing that. Some are more hardworking and motivated to achieve their goals than others. Some are more focused and strict in their routine to get what they want from life. Some wait for others to help them out to get what they want. Some remain contented and enjoy whatever they already have. The main idea is that we in one way or the other are in the similar programming:
a. Following a path to get somewhere
b. Fulfilling our present needs to get more in future
c. Looking for other ways to improve our present condition
d. Attracting new paths, new goals, and new tasks every day
e. Trying to look happy in the meanwhile
f. Smiling to leave an impression on others
g. Being social to fulfill our social needs
There is one exception: the people who live in their past. So they are exempted from this discussion.
Apart from all that, have you ever considered the feeling that you are missing every day, with each step you ahead, with each goal you achieve, with each success you embrace. The feeling in your heart – the pure touching feeling!
You must be enjoying your life though. You might be happy with your present finances and family matters. You might be having vocations in the nearby country to have fun. Even then I would say you are missing something. Something touchable- something for free; however, not each one among you could experience that!
To help others by all means. Have you ever thought, to help others, means to help yourself. When you help others, you feel light, ecstatic, and touchable. Your feelings are unique, distinct and subtle. Your feelings are pure, perfect and complete. You feel a lot in a single moment, you go miles ahead in a second, you are at the highest place in just one minute. Those feelings you must have in your life before, but for how many times- once or twice. So you are missing them badly. You do not know how much you need them. Your real health lies in that secret. Your existence is only possible if you feel like that – touchable.
Although there are many other things to do in the name of goodness, but my emphasis is on the things that we do for others on a voluntary basis. These things bring a real joy in our heart that is priceless indeed. When we get gratitude from others, we feel gratitude in our heart too, and that means we touch hearts. In other words we say thanks to the Universe in our own way. We are sending a message of gratitude to the universe. Touching hearts must be spread all over the world to increase the volume of gratitude – to reduce the miseries, diseases, cruelties and sufferings. Give me a hand in doing that. Will you?
Thanks
Perceive Today! 