Aggression in children is not very common in cold countries as compared to warm places. There are many factors that contribute to the child’s aggressive behavior: weather, noise pollution, family structure, food, and parents parenting style. The most important one is ‘parents’ parenting style’.
One should know what to do when his/her child is in an aggressive mood otherwise things will become more complex and alarming in the future. Here are some common mistakes that parents do and contribute a lot towards the aggression of their children deliberately or unconsciously:
1. Parents are aggressive or behave aggressively in front of their children. They must not do that if they want their children nice and cool.
2. In the toddler age, parents must tell their children, their limits in a polite way. They must remain consistent with that too. For example, they can set a kind of punishment (locking the favorite toy) for their child, whenever he/she feels aggressive. The child should know that being aggressive is followed by some kind of punishment in the form of negative reinforcement.
3. Parents must not leave their child alone in the time of aggression. Whenever their child is rude, bully, or hit someone, they should be present there to save the other child as well as to teach their own child. Otherwise, the lonely, aggressive child will act more boldly or become confused on what happened.
4. It is not the wisest decision to ignore the child’s abusive language at all. Whenever you listen your child becoming abusive, you must ‘stop’ it there and then. The child should know that using a bad word means annoying others, especially the dear ones-parents.
5. In the time of aggression, parents must not use praising phrases and loving gestures that they are used to in normal routine. Children should know that such aggressive actions are not approved by their parents at any cost.
6. Normally, parents ignore their children’s aggressive signs when they start to appear. In the teenage, parents are more worried about their aggressive teens that is more time taking and troublesome. So parents must deal with their children’s aggression at the time they start noticing it even at the very young age like six months.
7. Parents must talk about their children’s aggression when they are cool and ready to listen. Each and every episode should be discussed in detail and children may promise not to do it again willingly and happily in return.
Parents must be patient in resolving such issues, as they are likely to take a long time to get solved fully.
8. Parents must set a routine for their child to follow everyday if possible. A good routine of little actions would create a balanced environment for the child and engage her in more creative and productive activities; no time for behaving aggressively.
9. One child’s parents may try to take her to other relatives to teach her accommodating others and behave properly.
10. It is very important to take the child out of the aggressive situation and let her pass some time to become cool. On the other side, the victim will also be relieved from her (aggressive child).
11.Parents must appreciate their child’s nice behavior and provide her with a good understanding of good and bad attitude. Neither criticizing bad manners alone, nor appreciating good deeds only would not solve the matter. Parents must keep a balance between the two: appreciation and condemnation.
12. last but not the least, parents must be willing to address the issue ‘aggression’ in their child positively. Sometimes, parents are very insecure in themselves, and they think their child will protect them one day by being more aggressive and offensive in the future. So such parents need a counseling session before they continue seeding aggressive beads into their child’s mind.