problems

Problems Based on Realistic, Imaginary or Conceptual Solutions

There are countless kinds of psychological disorders-some are already discovered and some are still in disguise. We, being a human, are destined to face emotional ups and downs-there is nothing wrong with it. However, we, the psychologists, name our emotional episodes when they are more prominent to other emotions and become a hindrance in performing day to day life activities. We, seek for the therapist or psychologist to get a quick relief-without knowing the nature of our problem. Though psychologists are well trained and insightful, yet they are unable to find out our repressed thoughts and related experiences. Therefore, they would guess about the real nature of our problems   instead of seeking the true diagnosis!

So first you need to tell the doctor( (psychologist) what are you feeling? What are your worries and what you want to get out of prescription? When you tell the symptoms of your disease; the doctor tries to assess it too, and confirms your disease to prescribe a set of medicines and recommendations. In the same manner, you need to tell the psychologist the real symptoms of your disease(disorder) based on what the therapist would assist you with the counseling procedure. However, in the world of psychology, neither you could convey the right feelings inside you nor your therapist could judge finally what is the trouble through scientific analysis ( like blood tests and x-rays in medical science). This is the dilemma of the psychotherapies and a clear reason for being not so popular in the modern world.

Honestly think about your worries, distortions, and perceptual ambiguities and then decide if they need :

  1. realistic practical solutions
  2. imaginary refined mind-set
  3. new behavioral changes
  4. new conceptual understanding
  5. physical health along with psychological well-being
  6. clarity of thought, concepts or beliefs

For the practical problems, you do not need a psychologist- rather a lawyer, doctor, social worker or a helping hand.

Then ask yourself, are you in trouble due to your own things or things related to other fellows? Things which involve other fellow beings need others too, to participate in the session with you.

When you are aware of the nature of your problem, you go to the right person and save your time and energy. It is the basics you must know before going to any therapist or counselor. Wish you good luck and be happy!

Would You Drink More To Be Out Of Trouble ?

We being a human always search for easy fixes, short cuts, and quick ways to fulfill our desires, wishes, and needs. We want to be happy as early as possible. We are quite impatient and inconsistent in achieving our goals to become successful. It is our nature and we fight with our nature to look mature, reasonable, vigilant, cool, persistent and tolerant.

I see people spending a huge amount on only entertainment: crazy sports, watching movies, reading fiction, clubs, dinners, parties, celebrations, shopping, and what not. I see people spend a lot on the things they do not need rather they think they would need. I see people spend a lot on luxuries as compared to their needs (after their basic needs fulfilled).

Have you seen people drunk on the roads, especially on weekends? Have you seen people in clubs, dancing, drinking, and having fun in a large number? Have you seen people in cinemas watching their favorite movies? Have you seen people in the markets while buying lots of stuff luxuriously and carelessly? Have you seen people traveling for fun sake only? Of course, you must have seen people in libraries lost in books too.

What is the difference between the two types: the one searching for happiness outside and the one searching for happiness inside. The first choice would never end: after each episode, there is another to watch, after buying one thing, you would need another one tomorrow, one drink this weekend and one for the next one, one resort this year and another for the next year. So there is no full stop, no satisfaction forever. You have to be engaged daily while pursuing your pleasures and happiness.

The second way is looking inside. In this mode, you are going inside- looking for some help, researching your problems and their solutions, finding new concepts to deal with, creating new theories to tackle and jumping in the sea of happiness that would leave its footprints on your personality forever. You are growing day by day – giving more life to your senses, body and to the world outside.

Suppose you are marring a man/woman who is just perfect for you. You think  his/her company would have a tremendous effect on you in the long run. You may go for it but risk is yours. You might not get what is in your mind – you might be wrong in assessing that personality.  On the other side, if you think you are strong enough to decide and live by your choice and the other person is free to live with you as per his/her wish and till the time you both are having good terms. In this case, you are not bound to live together forever with someone you do not deserve, as your partner is not bound too to live with you. In this scenario, both of you are not at risk: neither in union nor in separation.

Through a little analysis of the above example, we come to know that in the first approach, one is handing over its worries and happiness to someone else’s hands. Whereas in the second approach one is not willing to live by its partners choice, thus is more inclined towards its inner strength and will power.

When you close your eyes and try to forget about your problems, problems remain there. When you take your problems as your projects and work on them with motivation and determination, the problems start to diminish.   Similarly when you engage in time-consuming activities to forget your worries, you waste time. Though time is a good healer but it is not a good healer in each and every matter of life. Moreover, time healing techniques is not yours – it would play its role as per its nature. It might be the lifetime to heal your wounds! So would you waste your whole life for time is the only healer for you!

I do agree that time is a great healer but only for little problems. When you have got cold, you have no option except to take Paracetamol. Similarly in some tiny matters, you need to pass time and wait for the solution of your disease. What about chronic diseases? Should you wait and see what will happen tomorrow or should you go to the doctor to consult? Definitely, you should seek a doctor’s advice. So it depends on the situation.  Like medical problems, if your problem is interfering with your day-to-day life, and it is more than a month and your problem is persisting; do not ignore the symptoms. Go to some specialist and get some advice. Do not waste your time.  You cannot find happiness  in drinking, shopping, traveling, playing, watching or doing something to let you forget about your worries. As there is no quick fix to your psychological disorders, to get you out of trouble miraculously. Yes, you can find happiness through these hobbies, if you are already happy.  So first, become happy, then look happy, first deserve then desire, first feel then enjoy!