Perceptions and Aspirations

Shades Of Nature  

We all have different types of personalities, attitudes, moods, emotions, languages, cultures, beliefs, values, traditions, customs, and priorities in life. We share a few commonalities and the big differences even when we live together as a family member, a part of a social group and being a part of a culture, in one country – ultimately in one world.

While editing your picture, have you ever noticed the lightening effect mechanism? Or when you go outside on a sunny day and suddenly a dark cloud appears; you find a night scene around you instead! You find it hard to recognize the real color of things in that darkness. You cannot judge the real time of the day in that sudden changed background. You cannot feel the sun anymore! However, here are two options for you to choose from:

First strategy:

If you are a lover of a sun, you will be disappointed and a bit sad on a sudden cloud’s arrival. If you are a lover of the rain, you will be happier with this sudden change. Therefore, your mood will depend upon your concepts in your brain about that change.

Second Strategy:

There is another way to deal with this natural change in your life. You think this is nature’s way to communicate with you and you try to understand the hidden meanings of this message. You trust on Universe (God for the believers) that there is always something good for you in each sudden change you encounter and you may express your gratitude in return for such changes. As you believe that these are natures gifts for you and you are lucky to feel them, to touch them, to recognize them, to acknowledge them and to be with them.

In the second way of expression, it does not matter what happens- rather it matters how you react. When you react in that manner, the nature is always kind and responsive in return; whereas in the first two ways, you are getting nothing except a hollow feeling. Thus the first strategy is for the worldly people; the second strategy is for the spiritual ones. You can try both to see the real difference between them.

Apart from this, there is another lesson in seeing the world under dark and light effects. When we depict our circumstances under bright sunlight while utilizing our harsh and strong emotional energy and manipulate our feelings aggressively; we become severely charged and difficult to resist, control and convince. On the opposite side, when we react calmly, with a cool mind, being contented and polite- we are dealing with the same environment under dark cloud effects while utilizing our emotional intelligence in the best possible way. Thus the substance remains the same, only our reaction makes the difference.

All in all, our perceptions of things will change with our perception of nature. Nature remains same –whether it is dark or light. We see the different moods in us with each changed sight. Nature provides us the same subject with different backgrounds; thus we perceive differently. The reality of things remains there as it was a hundred years ago. Matter does not change its volume – only changes its form.

We can always challenge our perceptions and analyze them to find out our real perceptions. When we come to know the science of lightening effects, we will better criticize our judgments for our preferences. When we come to know that there is only one picture ahead that is sometimes dark and other times light due to the natures lightening effects, we are no more confused and bewildered upon our conflicting perceptions.
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Human Love Need Not To Be Unconditional 

We all know what unconditional love is and how to apply it in a proper way. We all know parents love for their children must be unconditional, God’s love for his creation is always unconditional, and we know we need to develop unconditional love if we love someone truly. Unconditional means, love someone without any effort to change someone’s behavior, personality, and beliefs- accepting others with all shortcomings, limitations and weaknesses. We all know it very well and expect the same love from others too. Here, I am focusing on the love that needs not to be unconditional or there will not be any love at all. Have you experienced any kind of abuse in your life? If yes, then do you love your abuser? If yes, then you need not to love him anymore. Any kind of torture, abuse, discrimination and violation of human rights must not be appreciated, encouraged, or beloved in any scenario. Of course the abuser, criminal, or discriminator should not be hated as their actions need to be condemned. But what about love? Would we be able to love such personalities? Is it in our hand to love someone who is giving pain to us? Is it in our hand to separate the two things: crime and criminal? Linguistically or theoretically, it is possible to separate the two things, but practically and physically it is hard to distinguish between the two. We cannot love someone who is giving torture, who is an abuser, or who is the violator of basic human rights. Yes, we can forgive him/her and wish him/her a prosperous life and happiness with the awareness of his/her criminality. We can teach him/her on how to leave bad habits and facilitate him/her in the recovery process. We can donate something to him/her and his family for the sake of goodness and humbleness but we cannot be able to love him/her. Should we? Till the time, someone is in the zone of criminality and not guilty on his/her deeds, he or she must not be loved. God himself loves those who care for humanity, who are gentle in nature, and express their gratitude all the time. God is not with abusers, cheaters, thieves, liars, killers, rapists and seducers. Similarly we cannot separate a good deed from a person’s personality. We are impressed by nice behavior, cool conduct, polite attitude, and empathetic minds. We love the people who care for us, who help us out, who share with us and who support us in one way or the other. We just cannot see them without their personality aspects. or can we? People, who simply want others to love them unconditionally, are at fault. Even mothers need to take care of their children’s feelings in everyday life. When they ignore them largely (punish them, shout at them, and panic them) for a long time, love bond between the two will be at risk too. Such as in the cases of abuse (between parents and children) children will not keep on loving their parents unconditionally – the time will come when there will not be any love between the two. Although we all need the love that is basically unconditional from others but at the same time we do not accept others unconditionally. When someone dear to us, go against our nature, does something that annoys us, shows enmity to us, curses us, yells at us, shows disrespect to us, humiliates us, degrades us, makes us vulnerable, or does anything against us that we severely condemn, we all become sick and our love is no more there. At the end, we will not be in love– conditional or unconditional. To give punishment for crimes, to stop someone from being rude, to correct someone by force, or not to help someone in doing fraud, are all kinds of love for humanity. If we understand that to love someone unconditionally does not mean to accept him/her being abusive or torturous, then we can promote unconditional love and claim to have one. Otherwise we will put ourselves in a vicious circle of disappointment, depression, anxiety and frustration. Likewise, we need to understand that someone’s unconditional love for us does not mean he/she accepts our irrational and intolerable behavior. He/she has a right to save his/her life whenever it is in danger irrespective of the love he/she keeps for us. Only by this way, we can maintain a healthy unconditional love for someone. To conclude, love is always there but its quality is likely to improve if someone we love fulfills our expectations and shares many things with us in one way or the other. Love need not to be conditional in any case, but it is likely to fade with time, if we ignore basic human rights, relationship needs and do not concern to others in the time of need. We do not define conditions on our love intentionally as they are in our unconscious mind and we associate our love with them indirectly. When we do not get what we need for a long time from the person we love, we stop loving him/her and the love (unconditional) is simply not there. The same is true for any kind of relationship except God and His Creation. Thanks

Why Do Not We, Touch Hearts?

In today’s world, everybody seems to look healthy, prosperous, happy and tempted to earn more and more. Each one of us is in the race to get more money to spend, more things to enjoy, more pills to become healthier and more tasks to pursue. We, are blindly following our standards. Some of us are more persistent and ambitious than others in doing that. Some are more hardworking and motivated to achieve their goals than others. Some are more focused and strict in their routine to get what they want from life. Some wait for others to help them out to get what they want. Some remain contented and enjoy whatever they already have. The main idea is that we in one way or the other are in the similar programming:

a. Following a path to get somewhere
b. Fulfilling our present needs to get more in future
c. Looking for other ways to improve our present condition
d. Attracting new paths, new goals, and new tasks every day
e. Trying to look happy in the meanwhile
f. Smiling to leave an impression on others
g. Being social to fulfill our social needs
There is one exception: the people who live in their past. So they are exempted from this discussion.

Apart from all that, have you ever considered the feeling that you are missing every day, with each step you ahead, with each goal you achieve, with each success you embrace. The feeling in your heart – the pure touching feeling!
You must be enjoying your life though. You might be happy with your present finances and family matters. You might be having vocations in the nearby country to have fun. Even then I would say you are missing something. Something touchable- something for free; however, not each one among you could experience that!

To help others by all means. Have you ever thought, to help others, means to help yourself. When you help others, you feel light, ecstatic, and touchable. Your feelings are unique, distinct and subtle. Your feelings are pure, perfect and complete. You feel a lot in a single moment, you go miles ahead in a second, you are at the highest place in just one minute. Those feelings you must have in your life before, but for how many times- once or twice. So you are missing them badly. You do not know how much you need them. Your real health lies in that secret. Your existence is only possible if you feel like that – touchable.

Although there are many other things to do in the name of goodness, but my emphasis is on the things that we do for others on a voluntary basis. These things bring a real joy in our heart that is priceless indeed. When we get gratitude from others, we feel gratitude in our heart too, and that means we touch hearts. In other words we say thanks to the Universe in our own way. We are sending a message of gratitude to the universe. Touching hearts must be spread all over the world to increase the volume of gratitude – to reduce the miseries, diseases, cruelties and sufferings. Give me a hand in doing that. Will you?
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Watering Your Seed Of Love Blindly Is Equal To Digging Your Grave

Love is a blessing, a virtue, a diamond, a star, a flower, anything you love, you love. No one can dictate you what you need to love. Love is your personal choice. Your identity your personal trait. You are always right in loving something, someone or any abstract concept. You are the owner of your love. Even in the worst times of life, you cannot stop loving someone you love. Love remains in your heart so it will not affect your day to day life, it will not affect your attitudes, it will not change your behavior, it will not even make you conscious of your feelings of your love. Love is so much more reliable and valid like your prayers – like your heart.

In spite of all of your perfect and precious love, I tell you, you love first and define later. Your love is always biased. Your love is always fair and right. Your love is always good for you. Your love is always adorable and high.

Your love is almost settled in your teen years. You are programmed to love, according to the teachings of your parents, culture, society and education at large. After your teen- age, you only defend your love and find reasons. You love first, then prove why you love. You first decide who is your love and then prove why you love that particular body. First, you choose whom you love and then argue in favor of or against that person.

For example, you love your mother first, then you find particular traits in her and say you love your mother due to such traits. So even you are not aware of your unconscious feelings of love for your mother. Similarly, you love your children first, then argue about your love that is already there. Certainly it will be true for all of your loving attitudes. You will not realize that you do not choose anything due to its qualities, attributes or traits rather you choose something due to your first belief of love for it. When you decide it is good, you go for it and it proves good to you. When you decide it is bad for you, then you convince yourself by arguments that the thing is not worth loving.

In contrast, when you find something new in your life, you again try to reach to the conclusion and resolve it on your first experience with it. You decide once for all what is that: loving or ugly. Whatever you decide, usually you do not go against it later on. This is human nature.

For some special matters, we change our opinions of love after not getting the expected response and if consistently we face unexpected reactions for a long time, then we ultimately are forced to change our opinion about love. Thus we settle down to another conviction and again start defending it by our heart and soul for a fairly long time. Here it is important to note that the more tension between our belief of love and our contrasted experiences is, the worst we would feel. So the beliefs of love are not wrong but when they prove wrong, they hurt us. As beliefs always come first, we should be very careful in progressing them with great heart work. Again the more stronger they are, the more damage they might bring to us.

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