Have you ever seen a baby? She is so cute with her tiny feet, pure smile, loving gestures and incredible affection. Have you ever realized that your child could not walk properly, could not speak fluently, could not fulfill any task given to her and could not even take food with care ( without having any mess) yet she could give a smile, could perceive your love, anger, sadness, excitement and other emotions. Have you ever realized that in spite of being too weak and too dependent, your baby is fully equipped with the strongest emotion-love.
My Reflection
To Learn – Basic Human Need
We as human beings are designed to live with food, shelter, love, emotions, health, relationships, and many other things common for all of us in all over the world. Our instincts, attitudes, behaviors, aptitudes and personalities are totally understood the world over. We recognize the meanings of universal realities, international human rights, the definition of love, happiness and humanity as a whole in all over the world.
Emotional Immunization
Children are our next generation and our future depends on them. They need to be healthy emotionally, physically and psychologically. We all know that medicines help us in curing diseases and improve our health in all over the world. Similarly, we know how antibiotics prove a beneficial medicine in certain circumstances. We all use immunizations to provide our children a proper level of self defense against fatal diseases. Thus we take all feasible measures to protect ourselves from any possible low or high risk disease since the beginning.
Unfortunately, in the world of psychology, we wait for the problems to arise and then take steps accordingly. We do not prepare our children for a variety of troubles that may come across their way in the future. We do not bother if our kids have certain emotions to deal with setbacks in life, to fight with others negativity with confidence, to strive for their rights with commitment and consistency. We care for their self-esteem, motivation, confidence and sociability to some extent, but the level of training is not specified in the exact terms as it should be.
In this regard, I strongly feel that the syllabus should not only cover positive traits rather negative traits. It should explain the possible negative events a person might encounter in life and suggest the best possible strategy to follow in such circumstances.
The syllabus must explain the negative emotions and their types. It should explain how to overcome negativity and how to react on negativity of others. It should explain in exact terms, what one should do with the arrival of negative thoughts and on encountering the other negative emotions. Moreover, the fake and simulation type experiences can be added to the children’s syllabus to prepare them to deal with negativity in the environment.
Similarly other psychological aspects: personality disorder, mood disorder, sleep disorder, anxiety disorder, somatoform disorder, developmental disorder, cognitive disorder, impulsive-control disorder, or sexual disorder, should not be ignored. Children must be introduced to primary psychological issues to better equip them with tools to fight with future possible psychological setbacks. Again fake training experiences in schools can teach them better about how to deal with some common psychological issues that may bother them in the future.
Prevention is not for medical science only; rather it is very vital in psychological development and growth. We must prevent our children from psychological traumas and the same time from any suspected psychological disorder. Keeping aside the procedures that have already been established in schools for the assessment of children’s aptitude and attitude, IQ and E.Q., self-esteem and self-concept, here, it is strongly recommended to create some strict guidelines for the psychological health of the children to prevent them from future psychological traumas and disorders. Just like the rules of ‘washing hands’, ‘brushing teeth’, and ‘healthy food intake’, for a healthy body, we can teach them to be positive, think ahead, believe in yourself, use your instinct, in schools to prevent them from becoming a victim of any psychological disorder in the future.
Children need a proper psychological training and guideline to follow in their life. They need to understand what could happen to them if they stop preventing them from psychological traumas. They need to understand their personality type and then work on it accordingly. They need to get a proper training to get rid of from their negative psychological traits as well as polishing positive psychological aspects. In short, prevention is better than cure, not in medical science rather for psychological health too.
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Brands Impact On Self-Esteem
As a mortal human being, we just cannot deny the importance of products we use in our daily life. I am a fan of relationship science and its related benefits, but for this time, I want to highlight the benefits of the tangible items around us. As we use them often, they are closest to us, sometimes closer to human beings around us. For most of the time, we are living with those items, things, or products and we seldom recognize their utility and company consciously or unconsciously.
Nowadays, many companies are modifying their logos and labeling their products in terms of emotional benefits such as a good friend, a nice fellow, the real company or so. They have recognized the fact that products give us time to share with, to deal with, to spend some time with and to enjoy with them. We sometimes only need that product around us. For example, many of us just cannot live without their Laptops, Mobile phones, Cameras, Tablets, Mp3s, LCD TVs, etc. They greatly depend on these items and cannot think of living without them!
To elaborate the concept, one can say that some products even complete our sense of self. They are a unique part of us. When we ignore them, we lack something. They can boost our self-esteem and can motivate us towards higher goals. For the men these products could carry another name for their self-esteem like a luxurious car, a powerful motorbike, or a stylish bicycle. For the women, such products might include a luxurious lipstick, a charming perfume, a glamorous haircut, or branded shoes. Women can feel better, high, positive, happy, satisfied and esteemed in the company of such products.
Arguably, we cannot afford all so we need to think about it what to choose and what to leave for future. The products we love from the core of the heart must be bought at our earliest opportunity; they will provide us with a great amount of self-esteem, confidence, balance, and fuel to demand happiness. The products we cannot afford must be revolving around charity shops or online offers. One should not ignore them if they are going to give him/her the real sense of pleasure and comfort.
Brand names are not fake indeed. When we choose the brand we like, we respond to our inner self and we feel good in return. When we ignore our choice and go for the low price, we leave our true instinct and go for a little regret. However, it does not mean that you spoil your budget and go for the brand names only. I mean to say that the brand you love, the brand you miss, and the brand you adore, you should not leave it at all to save a penny or so.
To conclude, leaving aside the financial limitations, we have plenty of items to choose from. For most of the time, we can go for the ordinary name and go to our favorite item at the same price or at a similar price range. When you encounter such a comparison in your heart, go for the favorite one. You will not only buy it, rather love to consume it, like to be with it, and it will boost your mood towards something new, creative and genious.
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Self-Esteem – An Innate Trait
Self –Esteem is nowadays a common truth that everyone knows to some extent. We know when we feel low in esteem and when we feel high self esteem. We cannot say for sure, whether our self-esteem is real or fake, but we know that we are confronted with self-esteem issues and nothing else. You may find thousand techniques on how to gain self esteem truly and how to increase it day by day. You may find literature on how to maintain a healthy level of self esteem and become a successful human being as a result. In most of the cases, information is trustworthy and you can get benefit from such resources.
Here I am talking about the precaution not the solution of self-esteem related disorders. What do you think if we stop it from the beginning or try not to encounter with it throughout our life span. What if a child is given an immunization to prevent him/her from self-esteem problems in the future just like medical immunization systems? Can we provide our children a strong base to tackle with all kinds of self-esteem issues that might cause any severe disorder in their young or adult life? Self-esteem is visibly low in almost all psychological and personality disorders, so this prevention will benefit our next generation a lot.
The next question in this regard is how to prevent our nation from self-esteem problems? The answer is simple: we have to give them injections of low self esteem. We have to tell our children exactly what they will do, feel or observe when they face low self-esteem in their daily life. They need to understand all kinds of low self esteem and their severe consequences. Not only this, rather we need to give our children fake experiences of low self esteem and tell them how to get rid of it. These activities will train them for higher-level issues and they will not lose control when they find a real life threat to their self-esteem. In simple words, we have to educate them all basics of self-esteem and guide them through practical examples on how can they resist severe attacks of low self-esteem.
Self esteem is not limited to one field of life rather covers all areas of life and that is why it is very difficult to assess it as a whole and provide prevention skills. To tackle with its complexity, we need to assess our children from time to time and diagnose which type of information is vital for whom. Then, the best possible training might be provided to the students for the success of their future endeavors in general.
Safety tips for health, education, business, marketing, cooking, gardening and writing, save most of us in our daily life. We are accustomed to read them to get general information and to prevent us from commonsense mistakes. However, for psychological problems, we rarely look for others psyche and bother to improve ours. This is the main reason why we face troubles and usually it is too late to cure. We think we are the only one who is having this type of problem. Such thinking makes us more vulnerable towards helplessness and anxiety. Therefore, it is recommended to include self-esteem tips hand outs in all types of syllabi to prevent students from possible side effects of low self-esteem.
If I say that self-esteem is a contagious disease, it will not be very wrong. When we sit beside someone with low self-esteem, his/her ways of thinking affect ours in a systematic way. In addition, the same is true for us. As a result, we gain a new level of self-esteem (low or high) and unconsciously keep on delivering ours and absorbing others self-esteem from time to time. For this reason, we have to decide what are the golden rules that can prevent us from getting infected from others with low self-esteem. We need to establish a formula or pattern of beliefs that must be able to deal with such issues in advance.
Parent’s self-esteem is a great source of energy for their kids. By contrast, when parents suffer from low self-esteem, children’s self-esteem directly or indirectly is very much affected. To solve this problem, parenting classes to boost high level of self-esteem among their children are already getting inspiration in some of the areas of advanced world. Here the information that parents’ own level of self-esteem need to be raised to raise their children’s self-esteem is very vital. Educationists must have sessions with their pupils’ parents to see if the child’s low self-esteem has any connection with parents’ self esteem!
To conclude, self-esteem is very complex and common human trait and plays as a backbone in each psychological disorder. We can serve our children by utilizing our knowledge to give them proper training to deal with the self-esteem dilemmas. At the same time, we can equip them with a handful amount of tips to remain safe in the environment where low self-esteem threats are everywhere.
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Self-Esteem Paradox
Self –Esteem is nowadays a common truth that everyone knows to some extent. We know when we feel low in esteem and when we feel high self esteem. We cannot say for sure, whether our self-esteem is real or fake, but we know that we are confronted with self-esteem issues and nothing else. You may find thousand techniques on how to gain self esteem truly and how to increase it day by day. You may find literature on how to maintain a healthy level of self esteem and become a successful human being as a result. In most of the cases, information is trustworthy and you can get benefit from such resources.
Here I am talking about the precaution not the solution of self-esteem related disorders. What do you think if we stop it from the beginning or try not to encounter with it throughout our life span. What if a child is given an immunization to prevent him/her from self-esteem problems in the future just like medical immunization systems? Can we provide our children a strong base to tackle with all kinds of self-esteem issues that might cause any severe disorder in their young or adult life? Self-esteem is visibly low in almost all psychological and personality disorders, so this prevention will benefit our next generation a lot.
The next question in this regard is how to prevent our nation from self-esteem problems? The answer is simple: we have to give them injections of low self esteem. We have to tell our children exactly what they will do, feel or observe when they face low self-esteem in their daily life. They need to understand all kinds of low self esteem and their severe consequences. Not only this, rather we need to give our children fake experiences of low self esteem and tell them how to get rid of it. These activities will train them for higher-level issues and they will not lose control when they find a real life threat to their self-esteem. In simple words, we have to educate them all basics of self-esteem and guide them through practical examples on how can they resist severe attacks of low self-esteem.
Self esteem is not limited to one field of life rather covers all areas of life and that is why it is very difficult to assess it as a whole and provide prevention skills. To tackle with its complexity, we need to assess our children from time to time and diagnose which type of information is vital for whom. Then, the best possible training might be provided to the students for the success of their future endeavors in general.
Safety tips for health, education, business, marketing, cooking, gardening and writing, save most of us in our daily life. We are accustomed to read them to get general information and to prevent us from commonsense mistakes. However, for psychological problems, we rarely look for others psyche and bother to improve ours. This is the main reason why we face troubles and usually it is too late to cure. We think we are the only one who is having this type of problem. Such thinking makes us more vulnerable towards helplessness and anxiety. Therefore, it is recommended to include self-esteem tips hand outs in all types of syllabi to prevent students from possible side effects of low self-esteem.
If I say that self-esteem is a contagious disease, it will not be very wrong. When we sit beside someone with low self-esteem, his/her ways of thinking affect ours in a systematic way. In addition, the same is true for us. As a result, we gain a new level of self-esteem (low or high) and unconsciously keep on delivering ours and absorbing others self-esteem from time to time. For this reason, we have to decide what are the golden rules that can prevent us from getting infected from others with low self-esteem. We need to establish a formula or pattern of beliefs that must be able to deal with such issues in advance.
Parent’s self-esteem is a great source of energy for their kids. By contrast, when parents suffer from low self-esteem, children’s self-esteem directly or indirectly is very much affected. To solve this problem, parenting classes to boost high level of self-esteem among their children are already getting inspiration in some of the areas of advanced world. Here the information that parents’ own level of self-esteem need to be raised to raise their children’s self-esteem is very vital. Educationists must have sessions with their pupils’ parents to see if the child’s low self-esteem has any connection with parents’ self esteem!
To conclude, self-esteem is very complex and common human trait and plays as a backbone in each psychological disorder. We can serve our children by utilizing our knowledge to give them proper training to deal with the self-esteem dilemmas. At the same time, we can equip them with a handful amount of tips to remain safe in the environment where low self-esteem threats are everywhere.
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Abused Women Of Pakistan
When I was learning to drive, on my wrong movement toward backward, my instructor screwed me and said,’ if there were your little son standing on behind your car, I would see how you move without watching him’. I was bluntly looking at him and stood still! I had no words except to confess that I was wrong. I never made that mistake again. It was such a shocking assumption for me that I could not even think of that. I was terribly taught how to move backward carefully and safely.
Today I was watching T.V., when there was a news for a girl who was gang raped a few months back that she had burnt herself for not getting justice and for being stigmatized in society for such a long time. She had no other way except to have suicide. I think she should be taught a better way on how to suicide less miserably! At least there should be some peace in death!
Many other girls who suffer a trauma in life (may it be gang rape, burned in the fire, put in graves alive, been cut body parts), have no choice except to suicide. Unfortunately who live long, never find a respectable way to live their life as they are stigmatized, ridiculed and harshly criticized even within the sweet close family members!
Why don’t people think that this girl could be one of their relatives- their sisters, daughters, or cousins. I think they have no courage to think like that or they have no sympathy even for their own relatives!
For a society where justice is no where, one cannot think of having a punishment; one cannot fear of the law, jail or any other punishment; one cannot think of being stigmatized as the society is full of the criminals- like minded people. Unfortunately, there is all good for them. I, being a blogger, can only condemn such brutalities and feel sorry for that. I offer my free services of counseling to women who had been a victim of such traumas in their life, whether they belong to Pakistan or any other country. Please contact me on my email: mei3na4@gmail.com. I am in my humble capacity performing my duty, but what about other relevant societies?
I understand that there is no voice that could stand with the victim. No law, no government, no relative, no friend, no one! Here I put it in another shoe. To the girls who suffer from such miseries and bear any kind of abuse in life, I appeal to please do not kill yourself. Please do not do that harm to your precious soul. Let it go. I know it does not sound easy to you, I know, but you can do it as it is going to get you somewhere else. You can use your energy to do something great in life. You are not an ordinary soul, God has chosen you to do what an ordinary person cannot. There must be some good news for you too from your creator in the near future. Just be patient and remain calm until you get your final destiny of peace and happiness.
If you do so, this would be the best revenge indeed. This would uplift you from the sheer darkness and calamity and take you towards the eternal peace and bring you in spirit to live a happy wonderful life. My sympathy is always with you so you are most welcome to contact me whenever you feel like.
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Your Preference In A Particular Time Will Decide About Your True Love
We live with someone we have to share many things from food to bed. In couples, usually arguments arise due to having a contradictory point of view about one object. Do you want to know what is the real truth about your partner with respect to love, sex and intimacy? Are you aware of your partner’s true nature? Have you ever experienced your partner reacted differently somewhere beyond your expectations? If yes, then it is a case of contradictory preferences. Consider the following statements for a while:
• In normal circumstances, I would love to take you, but today I am more interested to go to university to see my friend.
• In normal circumstances, I would love to go to university to see my friend, but today I want to see my favorite movie last show in the cinema.
• In normal circumstances, I would love to go to the cinema to see that movie, but today I will have to arrange a job for my best friend.
• In normal circumstances, I would love to arrange a job for my best friend, but today my commitment with my son is more important.
• In normal circumstances, I would take my son to the park, but today I have to go for shopping first.
• In normal circumstances, I would go for the shopping first, but today I have to write a blog on my website.
• In normal circumstances, I would write a blog on my website, but today I am having a dinner outside.
In the above example, in each event, the preference is changed. The most preferred thing is our true nature that we just cannot postpone at any cost. We can also check our partner’s preferences in different circumstances and finally evaluate which is his/her true preference.
We, for most of the time, think we know ourselves better, but it is not true. Whenever we have better options, we go for that. Whenever we have ailments and troubles, we leave our present state of preferences and think that health is our first priority. So we always compare our likes and dislikes with respect to their value that we assign. In other words, we would change our preferences if we have more alternatives. Therefore, preferences themselves are nothing; they should always be considered with respect to alternatives. For example: you have two choices available to choose from: red color or black color. You are bound to prefer one; otherwise your choice would have been different.
Some would argue in this regard that their preferences never change. In reality their likes and dislikes never change. Our behavior in terms of our actions is always based on our preferences. What we choose, we go for it, and that is our priority, likeness and selection at that time. Our preferences reflect our true nature. Others preferences reflect their true nature. Your preferences reflect your true nature. Yes, the preferences keep on changing, but they describe what you are – not you.
You cannot separate your preferences from time boundaries as well. Alternatives change with the time –so too preferences. Today you prefer Honda car and tomorrow you will be going to Toyota. Today you are having HP laptop and tomorrow you would prefer Toshiba. Thus, your preferences are strictly associated with the alternatives available at some specific time. Analyze them fully and your partner’s to some extent and cool down. Your half of the problems must be resolved at this point. The rest ones should not take long if they are based on preferential contradictions.
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If You Have A Fear Of Loss…..
We are educated, informed, smart and vigilant. Even then we make wrong choices, wrong decisions, keep guilts and miseries. In one way or the other we suffer from our own misjudgments and misperceptions. We cannot control our mistakes from being happen and cannot save ourselves from being victimized. Pitty on us!
Anyhow, the damage we give to our souls is bigger than any other damage we do in our life. You might get back the property you have lost, you might plan for a new family to share the love and belongings, you might get your career back to uplift your spirits and to rise high- but what about your lost energy and psyche.
When you waste your time on trivial things, non- sense matters, and fake people, you waste your brains. You waste the most precious product of your personality for nothing. When you concentrate on tiny, unimportant, useless matters, you spoil your energy and put the best of you in the dustbin forever. Do you know, you will not be able to get that energy back. Do you know when you let the brain wander freely, you waste it a lot. Do you know your brain waste will never come back. There is no alternative action you can take to justify your loss. You just cannot get the energy back into your brain.
So before wasting your rich energies, consider the following things for a while:
a. If you have a fear of loss, do not invest more
b. If you feel anxious in some relationship, stop there.
c. If you feel worried before signing up, leave it.
d. If you are in doubt on some matter, put it aside for a while.
e. If you are sleepless due to some guilt, face it courageously forever.
f. If you are nervous in accepting some proposal, say no.
g. If you feel reluctant on meeting someone, do not go for it.
h. If you are puzzled on making a decision, take your time.
i. If you feel low in any situation, be refreshed and then go ahead.
Being a human, we make mistakes, but it does not mean we keep on wasting our time on making similar mistakes in life. Putting ourselves in limitless circles of mistrust and failure is equal to wasting our time again and again. We are not meant to face all relationships with happiness- some people need to be blocked or at least ignored. We need to be clear in our mind what to focus on and what not to focus on otherwise we will be in trouble and wasting our most priceless energies to serve vampires.
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Shades Of Nature
We all have different types of personalities, attitudes, moods, emotions, languages, cultures, beliefs, values, traditions, customs, and priorities in life. We share a few commonalities and the big differences even when we live together as a family member, a part of a social group and being a part of a culture, in one country – ultimately in one world.
While editing your picture, have you ever noticed the lightening effect mechanism? Or when you go outside on a sunny day and suddenly a dark cloud appears; you find a night scene around you instead! You find it hard to recognize the real color of things in that darkness. You cannot judge the real time of the day in that sudden changed background. You cannot feel the sun anymore! However, here are two options for you to choose from:
First strategy:
If you are a lover of a sun, you will be disappointed and a bit sad on a sudden cloud’s arrival. If you are a lover of the rain, you will be happier with this sudden change. Therefore, your mood will depend upon your concepts in your brain about that change.
Second Strategy:
There is another way to deal with this natural change in your life. You think this is nature’s way to communicate with you and you try to understand the hidden meanings of this message. You trust on Universe (God for the believers) that there is always something good for you in each sudden change you encounter and you may express your gratitude in return for such changes. As you believe that these are natures gifts for you and you are lucky to feel them, to touch them, to recognize them, to acknowledge them and to be with them.
In the second way of expression, it does not matter what happens- rather it matters how you react. When you react in that manner, the nature is always kind and responsive in return; whereas in the first two ways, you are getting nothing except a hollow feeling. Thus the first strategy is for the worldly people; the second strategy is for the spiritual ones. You can try both to see the real difference between them.
Apart from this, there is another lesson in seeing the world under dark and light effects. When we depict our circumstances under bright sunlight while utilizing our harsh and strong emotional energy and manipulate our feelings aggressively; we become severely charged and difficult to resist, control and convince. On the opposite side, when we react calmly, with a cool mind, being contented and polite- we are dealing with the same environment under dark cloud effects while utilizing our emotional intelligence in the best possible way. Thus the substance remains the same, only our reaction makes the difference.
All in all, our perceptions of things will change with our perception of nature. Nature remains same –whether it is dark or light. We see the different moods in us with each changed sight. Nature provides us the same subject with different backgrounds; thus we perceive differently. The reality of things remains there as it was a hundred years ago. Matter does not change its volume – only changes its form.
We can always challenge our perceptions and analyze them to find out our real perceptions. When we come to know the science of lightening effects, we will better criticize our judgments for our preferences. When we come to know that there is only one picture ahead that is sometimes dark and other times light due to the natures lightening effects, we are no more confused and bewildered upon our conflicting perceptions.
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Perceive Today! 